Once you’ve made the personal decision to have an abortion, your experience whether positive or negative can rely heavily on how you take care of yourself post-appointment. Depending on where you live, your family, your partner or friends, your personal choices, reactions and experiences are all specifically your own. But there are a few tips that can help all women who undergo this experience.
After my abortion, I found things that made me feel comforted and understood and also discovered certain things that didn’t help my transition back to my life. Here’s what I’ve learned and hopefully it can help another woman like yourself or a friend.
1. Order a Pizza
Does Pizza fix everything? Pretty much. It definitely doesn’t hurt it. I recommend eating your favorite comfort foods while drinking lots of water. Fuck the guilt, fuck the healthy eating for a second and do you. Order that pizza to yourself and eat all of it. Take a pizza coma nap after. You deserve it.
2. Take a hot shower
Whether you’re feeling relieved or tired or stressed, taking a hot shower is a great way to lower your heart rate and calm your body. One of my favorite things to do to relax is taking a hot shower and then laying in bed in warm, comfy clothing. Taking care of your body and your mind is the most important thing. After an abortion, whether the people in your life are supportive or not, you still need to make sure you’re feeling good, calm and comfortable.
3. Watch Obvious Child
I love this movie. I actually watched it maybe a year before I had an abortion and then I watched it again the day before I had one. I don’t know what it is, perhaps seeing an abortion storyline that doesn’t revolve around some kind of Dirty Dancing botched tragedy really speaks to me. It’s relatable, funny, substantial but light, modern and Jenny Slate is so good in it too. There really needs to be more abortion movies from a woman’s perspective.
4. Don’t be afraid to spend time alone or to call a friend
Whatever you’re feeling, make the conscious choice in figuring out what you need at the moment. Is there someone you want around? Or do you need time alone? Think deep and make sure you do not feel guilty for whatever you choose. Sometimes being alone is the answer but sometimes it only makes us feel more disconnected during moments of different and individual emotions. Whatever you do, make sure it’s what you want. You are in control.
5. Take time to appreciate yourself
Last but most certainly not least, value yourself. I mean seriously. You made a choice about your body, your life and your future in the most positive way. And as always, people are always going to have opinions and say the wrong thing at the wrong time, but deep down if you know that this was right for you then that’s all that matters. People have so many comments and opinions until they’re in the experience themselves. You decided your body belongs to you, despite a world, history, and society that tells women otherwise. Thank you.
Taking care of yourself post-abortion looks different for everyone. Everyone’s experience is their own, and their needs vary depending on so many factors. All I can do is tell you to find what works for you, by focusing on what feels right. Whether it’s going for a walk, taking a nap, eating your favorite food – it doesn’t matter. It all comes down to appreciating yourself and accepting any way the experience has happened. Thank yourself for taking control of your body, it’s an act of self-love.