Alas, 2019 is upon us. Another year has flown by and still, misogyny rears it’s ugly head far too often. One of the most important things we can take from 2018 is that there is power in numbers and power in coming together. The marches, the voices and the stories that came out of 2018 have changed the world, for the better, in between all of the tragedy and disappointment.
Here is a guide for dismantling the patriarchy in 2019, while taking care of your mental health and respecting your personal boundaries.
What are you passionate about?
Finding out what you truly care about is important when it comes to your own personal views and what you want to fight for. Think about what kind of mark you want to leave on the people around you and the world, and what you want to see change if you could have the power to change it.
Speak your truth
Don’t be afraid to have an opinion. Don’t be afraid to speak it. There’s only going to change when brave individuals have the opportunity and the courage to speak their truth. Whether it be online, in a bar or at a coffee shop with a friend, be yourself and don’t be afraid to talk about sensitive subjects if the time is right. The world has been changed by individuals taking the time to talk and create.
Report workplace harassment
One of the most important tips of the year is to report workplace harassment. Every friend of mine has a story where someone did something inappropriate at their work. Isn’t that terrifying? No one likes to go through long interviews and investigation processes, but if you want to and think it’s the right thing to do, you need to report it. Not only will it protect victims in the future but it will also send a message to the world that this will no longer be tolerated. Society can’t ignore changing shifts, especially if it’s a movement.
Take care of yourself
Taking care of your mental health is always extremely important. When the news is bleak and dark and stories come out that can be a trigger, you are in no way expected to handle everything with grace and ease. It’s a tumultuous time, and sometimes it really does get the best of us. The most important thing is that you are handling your pain in a healthy way and not doing something to sabotage or hurt yourself. Know that living is still worth it, even through the darkest days, and the world needs people like you, it needs to hear your voice.
I have struggled with severe depression myself, and found comfort in therapy, traveling, antidepressants/anti-anxiety medication, yoga, moving to the mountains and telling everyone to fuck off, and most importantly – time to heal, grow and know when to turn off the news/social media.
Fuck beauty standards
Loving your body is the most revolutionary act a person can do. With advertising, music, movies, and media – we are taught to always feel like we’re never good enough, and that we’re always a work in progress. Women especially are targeted because the patriarchy wants to keep us out of power by forcing us to focus on our flaws and how we can fix them. The most revolutionary thing you can do this year is to appreciate your body, stretch marks, ingrown hairs, and cellulite – all of it. There is nothing wrong with it. Think about where your media is coming from.
Don’t be afraid to ask a potential partner about his/her/their views
Finding a partner that has the same views as you is personally important to me, but it may not be for you. Being able to talk about your views on the world is necessary and having someone that listens and tries to understand is important for growth. Being able to have discussions with a significant other is a great way for both of you to continue a progressive attitude and evolution through 2019.
Remember, above anything else, take care of yourself and your mental health.